For parents of NEET, JEE aspirants and college-goers,
In a counselling with a child appearing for the NEET exam, amidst their panic, the parents felt more restless inside but the child showed it.
Every parent, when starting the journey of career choice, must sit down with the child and find out what they want to do.
If child says, "I don't know," that is the best thing, since they know exactly what they don't want in their life.
Ask them or take help, because you may get the answer that they are sure that they don't want to be like their mom and dad :)
Blessed are those children who don't want to live by the legacy of beliefs and patterns of their parents and are mavericks.
They know there will be difficulties and challenges ahead, but are ready to follow the UNKNOWN.
It's a very, very big thing, because humans feel safe and comfortable with the familiar.
Changing habits and thought patterns, no matter how much damage they do to us, are some things we rarely change .
So congratulations to those who choose the UNKNOWN - you have won the biggest battle in your life - to live fearlessly.
We, as a parent, think that life is a linear progression.
The best school, best support ( with coaching or guidance ) and the best college will surely lead to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Happiness, good career, better relationships, wealth and so on are supposed outcomes of that.
But life is never a linear progression.
So when I asked this child,
WHAT IS ONE QUALITY THE DOCTOR MUST HAVE ?
Like if I want to become a chef,
The first quality I must have is to love food, love cooking food and love feeding people so that you can provide nourishment and can add your own qualities to it.
If you wants to become a teacher , the first quality you must have is to love and compassion for the pupil . You must have the ability to connect with every student at such level that whatever knowledge you share with them must transform their life or add value to their life. If you think its an easy job and anyone can do it, you can't be a teacher . You would be an employee for an institution only.
The child was not able to answer.
No school or coaching centers are teaching this.
Do you have the attitude of a doctor?
If you ask me, a few days back, an emergency doctor in the making, a friend of my son's, asked him what doctors should be and what they are, and I replied that
DOCTORS ARE THE MOST HOPEFUL AND HELPFUL PEOPLE. IN EMERGENCIES, EVEN WHEN THEY SEE ALL PARAMETERS OF LIFE DROPPING, GIVE MORE THAN A 100 PERCENT AND REMAIN HOPEFUL TILL LAST BREATH OF THE PATIENT.
AND IF THEY COULDN'T HELP THEM, THE DOCTORS ARE SO RESILIENT THAT THEY ACCEPT THE FACT AND COME BACK TO PRESENT MOMENT. A GOOD DOCTOR MUST DETACH THEMSELVES FROM FAILURE AND FIND OUT NEW AVENUES FOR CORRECTION TO PERFORM BETTER NEXT TIME.
So, everyone must give their 100% to what they are doing and be hopeful.
If something is not in your favour, be resilient and work upon it. Find the mistake and search for answers without attachment to failure.
When you sit and form a lifelong goal for your child, keep in the mind that they are here after you in this life, but they have the intelligence and experiences from their previous lives and they also have their own journey and their own purpose in the life.
With or without you, they are going to acheive it.
Don't do so much for them that rather than a connection, they form a dependency on you.
The day they will be independent is the day the parents get the biggest shock.
They don't need your so called love that you created.
In the first place, detach yourself from idea of
MINE...MY...MY CHILD.
See them as a spiritual gift and also teach them that they are here for a purpose.
You name it, higher purpose or lower purpose.
There is only a purpose and they will find it out their own way.
If we step out from their way and let them walk on their own and just be there, they will progress.
They should feel that
They are seen
They are protected
They are safe
This world is a safe place with little bits of uncertainty here and there.
There is opportunity every single time for growth in success, in failure, in pain and in joy.
Every single second, we grow as people.
All the best to all the children who are stepping into the world of opportunity.
Know that with the Unknown and Uncertain, comes opportunity.